The Quran
1. "We have enjoined on man kindness to his parents; in pain did his mother bear him, and in pain did she give him birth" (46:15).
2. "Thy Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him, and that ye be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in thy life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honor. And out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say: ‘My Lord! bestow on them Thy Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood' "(17:23-24).
3. "We have enjoined on man and woman kindness to parents; but if they (either of them) strive (to force) thee to join with Me anything of which thou hast no knowledge, obey them not'" (29:8).
4. "We have enjoined on man and woman (to be good) to his/her parents; show gratitude to Me and to thy parents; to Me is (thy final) Goal. If they (parents) strive to make thee join in worship with Me things of which thou hast no knowledge, obey them not; yet bear them company in this life with justice (and consideration) and follow the way of those who turn to Me (in love)" (31:14-15).
The Hadith
1. The Prophet Muhammad said, may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him: Your Heaven lies under the feet of your mother (Ahmad, Nasai).
2. A man came to the Prophet and said, ‘O Messenger of God! Who among the people is the most worthy of my good companionship? The Prophet said: Your mother. The man said, ‘Then who?' The Prophet said: Then your mother. The man further asked, ‘Then who?' The Prophet said: Then your mother. The man asked again, ‘Then who?' The Prophet said: Then your father. (Bukhari, Muslim).
3. Abu Usaid Saidi said: We were once sitting with Rasulullah when a man from the tribe of Salmah came and said to him: O Messenger of Allah! do my parents have rights over me even after they have died? And Rasulullah said: Yes. You must pray to Allah to bless them with His Forgiveness and Mercy, fulfill the promises they made to anyone, and respect their relations and their friends (Abu Dawud and Ibn Majah).
4. Abdullah ibn Amr related that the Messenger of Allah said: The major sins are to believe that Allah has partners, to disobey one's parents, to commit murder, and to bear false witness (Bukhari, Muslim).
5. It is narrated by Asma bint Abu Bakr that during the treaty of Hudaibiyah, her mother, who was then pagan, came to see her from Makkah. Asma informed the Messenger of Allah of her arrival and also that she needed help. He said: Be good to your mother (Bukhari, Muslim).
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What to do for mothers
Assalamu’alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh
السَّلاَمُ عَلَيْكُمْ وَرَحْمَةُ اللهِ وَبَرَكَاتُهُ
(May the peace, mercy, and blessings of Allah be with you)
I testify that there is no god but Allah. And he is The Most Kind, The Most Mercify. May he save us from being among those who misguide others.
In Sha Allah (If Allah wills), you will find some of your answers here:
https://islamqa.info/en/763
However, here is some of my advice to you:
-Do what she would have wished you to do permitted that it is lawful and try to do it with an intention to please your Lord, Allah, through serving your mother.
-Be kind to those she was kind to such as her friends and family
-If she had any debts make an utmost effort to clear them.
Al-Nasaa’i (4605) narrated that Muhammad ibn Jahsh (may Allaah be pleased with him) said:
We were sitting with the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) when he raised his head towards the sky, then he put his palm on his forehead and said: “Subhaan-Allaah! What a strict issue has been revealed to me!” We remained silent and were afraid. The following morning I asked him, “O Messenger of Allaah, what is this strict issue that has been revealed?” He said, “By the One in Whose hand is my soul, if a man were killed in battle for the sake of Allaah, then brought back to life, then killed and brought back to life again, then killed, and he owed a debt, he would not enter Paradise until his debt was paid off.” Classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Nasaa’i, 4367.
-Give charity and be generous on her behalf.
-If she had any vows try to fulfill them.
Just because she is no longer with you does not mean you can't listen to her words now and follow her wisdom.
And spread the word; Encourage others to be good to their mothers, Encourage them to do for their mothers that which you couldn't do for your own. (Don't be shy. Know that Allah is with you so ask him for forgiveness, guidance and strength because he is ).
And Allah Knows Best
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You Can Do Too Many Things
You still have time to do good things for your Mom Such as and not limited to:
1. Give money to poor people and ask them to pray for her.
2. Help anyone needs help whether physical help or emotional help.
3. Ask Allah forgiveness by saying "Astaghfirullah" too many times every day.
4. Try to do any kind of good things such as being good with your neighbors, children, other relatives.
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Respect your parents
We should respect our parents.
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Stay away from them
It is better to stay away from them. But if they call you for some help and you are in a position to help, then it's better to help them. Keep praying to Allah for their parachutes to be opened for Islam before they hit the bottom of the pit.
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Stay away from them
Brother Fayaz it is better you stay with parents your mother carried you and gave birth to you in this world you must pray you not hit the bottom of your hellfire pit to be with them in paradise.
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Need help
I am a convert and looking for answers my parents are not nice and trust worthy people and have caused me much upset in my life and have disrespected islam and allah and myself as heaven is under your mothers feet and if she not happy there is no place in heaven for you what does it mean for my situation i have been through so much i feel its best to stay away for my own wellbeing
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Congratulation
Assalamwalaikum,
Congratulation sister. Allahmdullilah you converted to Islam and may Allah bless you always.
Regarding to your concern, I understand that it is hard to deal with these problem. But, don't mistreat or disrespect your parents like the way they do. Islam teach us to obey and love our parents after Allah. So, be kind to them, respect them and pray for them. Ask Allah's help to help them change and insyaallah your paretns will respect you or even followed Islam.
Thank you and may this comment of mine can inspires you :)
Wasalamwalaikum
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As/ Salam . First of all i
As/ Salam . First of all i want to congrats you to join and come towards true peace ( Islam ) . May peace be upon you
:-) .. it's true that in Hadith it's said that
Heaven lies under mother feet's . And we all should be nice with our parents .
You saying that your parents are not nice with you .Even If they taunt u and mislead u or treats you no good . Don't do the same with them try to be nice .. and leave the rest to Allah .. and seak for hedaya and hadis .. and inshallah u will definitely find a way ..
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Asalam Walikum to you and your parents
Asalam Walikum Sophie, Congratulation for your revert to Islam.
As far as my knowledge from my parents & friends in Islam.
1. you have to be good to your parents at any cost. we cannot replace them with a new parents.
2. your thinking about them even if they behave bad should change.
as your have reverted, you are like a new born baby with all your past cleansed (if any sins or mistakes done)... so your forget their past behaviours with you.
3. learn & show them the beauty of Islam from your lifestyle, talk, behaviour, respect.... there are many hadith & prophetic stories which will help you become positive towards them. "Care for them", Even if they get effected good 1% within their heart... you succeed.
4. Dont except them to show you back the good behaviour, they might be old now & i think they been following a religion other than islam... its very difficult at this age to accept your revert unless Allah give them hidayat.
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Mother
I am a convert too of over 20 years. I showed good manners and kindness to my mother. In the end she said she liked islaam for the respect it gave mother's. Your reward is with Allah for your patience and kind treatment.
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