Often, moms do virtually all of the giving and very little, if any, of the taking from their families. They may not say it, but most of them want to be appreciated in small ways. You don't have to buy them a car or a house (you could do that too), but it's the small things that count with mom.
Here are some ideas of how you can let mom know that all of her giving has and continues to be appreciated.
1. Give mom a vacation
Don't think Hawaii. Think of a day away from the kitchen. Or the home. Give her a vacation from the home where for her, most of the seemingly endless housework is done daily. Or, if she doesn't want that, start doing your share around the house. Maybe you could start giving her one day of the week off, when she does no cooking or household chores. Remember, fathers and husbands work hard at the office, but they get a two-day weekend in most cases. Moms usually don't even get a full day off. And if they are also working outside, it's like two full time jobs.
2. Let's hear her life story: a mom's circle
She may have read you bedtime stories when you were small, but now it's time for her to tell you a different story-about herself. Make a mom's circle at home in which you ask her to tell her life story. Mom's circle may actually turn into a project: one family member could write this up into a report, another could make a story book out of it and a third could video/audio record it. A mom's circle may become an ongoing family tradition.
3. Try beating mom's cooking
While most moms ask their kids what they want to eat, turn the tables around and do the same for her. Is there special food your mom likes? Buy or prepare that food for her (if you are not the best of cooks, maybe it's safer to just buy it).
4. Is your mom in a nursing home
If your mom is in a nursing home, why not plan to bring her home for a weekend visit to stay with you. Even better, why not make this a weekly, or twice a month set up, so you can spend more time with her and she can be around those who really love her more often? Of course the ultimate gift will be if you can liberate her from that nursing home so she can stay in her room in your own home.
5. Arrange a mammogram for her
Every three minutes, a woman in America is diagnosed with breast cancer. That woman could be your mom.
A woman's chances of developing breast cancer increases with age. The National Cancer Institute recommends women age 40 and over be screened with mammography every one to two years. It also advises that women at higher risk of breast cancer get medical advice before they are 40 about when to begin screening and about the frequency of their screening. Do this for your mom, so you can see her spend the rest of her life in good health, Insha Allah (if God wills).
6. Is your mom a bookworm?
If so, buy a small cabinet and buy all of the books you can afford. Then take it to her home and set it up for her.
7. If your mom is a non-Muslim
If your mom is a non-Muslim, try fasting for a day (Nafil or extra fasting), and keep thinking and praying for her. Ask Allah that He guides her and ask Him what you can do to help her understand her own Creator.
8. If your relationship has not been the best with your Mom
If your relationship with your mom has not been the best, sit down in front of a year-long calendar or planner and mark down dates and things which you can plan to improve this relationship. Start off by making a formal first appointment. Then pick dates on which you can keep contact with her and build your relationship on a regular basis.
9. If mom is not alive
If your mom is not alive, visit her relatives and friends and ask what you can do for them. Consider these two Hadiths (sayings of the Prophet Muhammad peace and blessings be upon him):
1. The Messenger of Allah said: When a person dies, his actions come to an end, except for three things: a continuing Sadaqa (charity), knowledge from which benefit is still being derived, and a righteous child who prays for her or him (translated meaning from Muslim).
2. Abu Usaid Saidi said: We were once sitting with Rasulullah when a man from the tribe of Salmah came and said to him: O Messenger of Allah! do my parents have rights over me even after they have died? And Rasulullah said:
Yes. You must pray to Allah to bless them with His Forgiveness and Mercy, fulfill the promises they made to anyone, and respect their relations and their friends (Abu Dawud and Ibn Majah).
10. Pick up her feet and spread the word
The Prophet Muhammad said: Your Heaven lies under the feet of your mother (Ahmad, Nasai). Ask your mom to lift her feet, so you can locate where Jannah is. Then tell others about your discovery by sharing what Islam has to say about moms and their importance in our lives.
Photo Attribution: Peter van der Sluijs - http://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Young_mother_with_a_group_of_girls_Indonesia.jpg
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Assalaamualaikum,May Allah Bless The Person Who has written this Article.I thank ALLAH who has Blessed me the "Best Thing In The World" Which is very precious to me .....MY MOM and also given me the chance of performing the same task of A Mom..... I Thank my Mom for always being there for me.May ALLAH Bless My Mom in this World and here after.
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Thanks alot for this beautiful article. Really,mothers are the most important and respected people in this world. Mothers are the one who sacrifies all her life for their children from childhood to maturity and to death without expecting a single thing in return. they are the one who help us to walk when we are not able and they are the one who give us strenght when we are weak,they are the one who take care of us in terms of clothing, eating, walking, talking, behaving with others, and all other aspect of our life. it is to us now, to learn from them how to respect others and try to be as helpful to them as they are to us. Specially, we should be very much helpful to them when they are in need and we should always take care of them. May Allah give us stringht to do all his commands inorder to get the pleasure of Allah himself, his beloved Prophet(peace be upon him) and our parents...Ameen...
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I recently had a friend who had a misunderstanding with her mom and refused to call her. I then shared information I read here....you are not to say "one hurtful word..treat her with nobility....heaven lies at the feet of thy mother". She called her mom and her mom thanked me. I only know from my life that a mother is that friend who is always there..........my mother is a pillar of strength after my pappa passed..may Allah reward her and pappa bountifully for imparting islamic knowledge to me. I picked up a magnet for my refridgerator recently...."if mothers were flowers....you'd be the one I'd pick". I love her immensely. Thank you Allah....I can pray for her, telephone her, send presents to her, give charity on her behalf, sing to her, send cards to her, hug her, cook for her, rub her feet, do her chores and compliment her!!!
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SubhanAllaah, while my mother every single day of the year ask us what we would like to eat today, i have never actually asked her what her favourite dish is. SubhanAllaah. Great Article...
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The best gift one can have from ALLAH is the GIFT OF A MOTHER, whom i appericate her so much with all my heart. The way i love my Creator and His messanger, thats how my feelings are there for my parents. To describe ones feeling for her is undescrible, there is no word that could express it in better form....love is only a word.its the action one should take and go a bit far to help her, dont wait for her to call you.son or daughter is the one who understands her mind and gets up before she opens her mobth. May Allah(swt) help and grant our mothers best place on both world with tranqulities, may He forgive her and us for any mistake one may do in ones life ameen. guys if u have a mother help her ever secod on your life...while u have the chance to prove and improve ur life style is through mother. giving her rating of score is too high. To my dearest Mother, Best friends are hard to find.True love is beautiful and so divine.My thought are trapped inside my head.When, I gently rest my head.Friendship is worth its weight in gold.Especially, when you are growing old.When help is needed, they are there,Their kindness, always comes with care.Children's friendship, young and old.is so value, I've been told.They help with errands and the chores.The Darlings. I do so adore.Parents love is so strong and bold,Thney are always there, never ever told.To nurse you and caress you, ever ill.You love them dearly, always will.Friendship makes the world go roundIt makes the flowers grow, and the trees.The birds fly and show their colour,Coming into the garden, after each other.Resting here, not very able,I cannot walk or sit at the table.My eyes are closed, my body quite still.I await now, for my last thrill is to be there and say i love You from the deepest part of me heart...She is whole heart who pumps blood through my weak body to me strong, and respect other even in the hardest time.I love U mother.I am so grateful to Almighty ALLAH to gave me a beautiful mother like YOU:)brother and sisters, if u are upset from them just forget it and open ur arms and hearts to them, welcome them.....if their die than its ur lost....do something when u can....those who who are have no mothers than still u can benefit to if u Turn to Allah forgiveness on their behalf.may ALLAH grants those who are gone before us al JANNAH AND SHOW US THE RIGHT PATH; THE PATH THAT STRIGHT TOWARDS ALLAH:MAKE DUAS FOR EVERY MUSLIMS ON EARTH. The article was absolutely wonderful as i read it, my tears were just running over my cheeks.
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Unfortunately, many don't fully appreciate and value their Mother until it's to late. Absolutely GREAT article.
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Assalamu Alaikum JazakAllah khair for this very useful article. May Allah swt reward you for this.My MUM was died in 1996 and now we realized after his death how much Mum is importance and precious in our lives.May Allah (swt) forgive her mistakes and bless her with Jannah al Firdus. Aameen
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Mashallah! thats very nice, nothing we do is ever enough for our mothers, they are precious, we r lucky to have them, for those who have no moms, my sympathy, and for those who have them but dont value them i pity them.....please love them when they have gone, we could never fogive ourselves for not being there for them.....their happiness is our joy and delight...waheeda
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assalamalaikum,it was a wonderful feeling to read about hadees relating to mother.though i have read these hadees many times before ,reading it again and again just increased the pleasure.iam very happy that sound vision is doing this kind of work ,of getting people closer and spreading the true religion,islam.i just hope that we once for all become truly faithful and respect and treat our parents in the best ways
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Salam alaekum to soundvision,just to tell you for your publication that my mother is precious.please, let us all do good to our mothers because mothers cannot be replaced.Thanks
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